How Al-Anon Works?

We come to Al-Anon from all walks all life. Although we come for many different reasons, we stay because we want our lives to get better. In Al-Anon we find others like us who welcome us.

"We welcome you to the Al-Anon Family Groups and hope you will find in this fellowship the help and friendship we have been privileged to enjoy. We who live, or have lived, with the problem of Alcoholism understand as perhaps few others can. We, too, were lonely and frustrated, but in Al-Anon we discover that no situation is really hopeless and that it is possible for us to find contentment, and even happiness, whether the alcoholic is still drinking or not."

Al-Anon members share their experience strength and hope with one another. They tell their experiences on how they have been affected by the disease of alcoholism; they share their strength and hope with us in how the Al-Anon program has helped them find solutions to their problems, and how their lives have changed.

"We urge you to try our program. It has helped many of us find solutions that lead to serenity. So much depends on our own attitudes, and as we learn to place our problem in its true perspective, we find it loses its power to dominate our thoughts and our lives."

There are no “musts” in Al-Anon. Nobody tell others what to do about a situation. Newcomers are suggested not to make any major decisions during the first few months after coming to Al-Anon, simply because as we keep coming back and begin to get better, our perspective and attitudes change.

Members are reminded in the closing to “take what you like and leave the rest”. As we hear many things from members sharing, we become aware of more choices that are available to us. Some we can identify with and with some we will not. Some we will find helpful and some may not be.

"The family situation is bound to improve as we apply the Al-Anon ideas."

By focusing on ourselves and our recovery, our lives and the lives of those around us get better.

One of the first things we hear in Al-Anon is that we are powerless over another’s alcoholism. The 3 C’s tell us: We didn’t Cause someone else’s alcoholism, we cannot Control someone else’s alcoholism, and we cannot Cure Alcoholism.

As we begin to apply the Al-Anon ideas, by focusing on ourselves and our recovery, we find that the only thing we CAN change is ourselves and our own lives. Al-Anon provides us with a simple step-by-step approach to rebuilding our lives and our self-confidence in an atmosphere of unconditional love.

"Without such spiritual help, living with an alcoholic is too much for most of us. Our thinking becomes distorted by trying to force solutions, and we become irritable and unreasonable without knowing it.".

In Al-Anon we become aware of the affects the disease of alcoholism has on us. We begin to recognize the part we play in the alcoholic relationship and how we react. The more we learn about alcoholism and see that we have options, we slowly we begin to change and recover.

"The Al-Anon program is based on the Twelve Steps (adapted from Alcoholics Anonymous), which we try, little by little, one day at a time, to apply to our lives, along with our slogans and the Serenity Prayer. The loving interchange of help among members and daily reading of Al-Anon literature thus make us ready to receive the priceless gift of serenity."

The Al-Anon program gives us tools to aid in our recovery.

Al-Anon is an anonymous fellowship. According to the Al-Anon Eleventh and Twelfth Traditions, anonymity is an important principle of the Al-Anon program. The identities and sharing of members are to be kept in strict confidence, as well as the identity of all Alateen and A.A. members. We can carry the message but not the messenger.

Many of us keep coming back to Al-Anon even years after the main reason that first brought us to Al-Anon no longer exist. The Al-Anon program keeps working in our lives helping us through all of our ups and downs. For many it is a spiritual home, friendships are built, and as long as we keep coming back, we keep learning, changing and growing. We keep working the Al-Anon program so that we can maintain our serenity and sanity, our positive attitudes and spiritual health while we apply the Al-Anon principles in all of our affairs. The changes in our lives will not happen over night, but each in our own pace, as we come to learn and live the Al-Anon program “one day at a time”, will find that living the Al-Anon program enriches and improves our lives.


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                                                               "Let Go and Let God"